Now that I have been married for 2 years, I believe it’s time for me to start giving advice on how to succeed, right? On how it feels to be married, and what it actually means to love your spouse? It’s funny to me when I think about how people might ask me these questions. I have learned a lot since getting married in 2014, but I definitely have a whole life of learning ahead of me.
The first thing that comes to mind when people ask me how my marriage is going is “awesome“. I don’t think that’s a good word to summarize our lives and how we’re doing, but it somewhat captures how I feel. It is awesome to be able to go to sleep and wake up next to a beautiful woman who wants to be there next to me. It is awesome that we get to do what ever we want whenever we want (most of the time). We joke sometimes that it’s like we’re playing a very long game of house.
It is awesome that we can spend nights together not saying a word and yet I still feel appreciated and loved just by holding her hand. It is awesome that we have learned what really annoys each other and sometimes avoid doing those things (or not). It is awesome that we get to make meals together and find out new foods that we like together.
I think we got really lucky. It’s not very common for a couple to be together for 8 years before they get married, and it definitely helped. We still had no idea what it was going to be like to live with each other, though. Going home to the same person every day and every night. Being interconnected in so many different ways. Nothing can ever really prepare you for that.
But I have learned a lot about my partner in crime. How she feels after a long day at work. How she looks really pretty in the morning, no matter what she says. How she believes in me no matter what. How she wants to be loved in certain ways. And how she doesn’t want to be loved in certain ways. I am amazed every time I stop and think about the fact that this awesome person chose me to do life with.
It was awesome living in our tiny first apartment, and now our second place has more space and even has air conditioning (gasp!). It has been awesome getting to explore new places in the world with my navigator and travel companion. I think the real reason why being married is awesome is because I know all the things that we have done the past couple years have been incredibly awesome. But, these few years will pale in comparison to the many years ahead where I get to do some even awesomer things with my awesome wife!